Hi Michelle--
Well. what do YOU want?
Are you satisfied with this relationship? Are you satisfied with a partner who only stays with you because you have children? Satisfied about what your kids are learning/absorbing about adult intimate relationships based on what they are living and the dynamic you 2 create?
If he doesn't see you together in 20 years, what are y'all waiting for?? I mean, what a thing to say!
Life, freedom, joy, and serenity are all around you.
I hated having to ask myself that very question "How do I act, how do I respond?" day in and day out in my dysfunctional marriage! Walking on eggshells. Yuk. It really came down to a realization that I did not know who I was, or what I wanted. Therapy helped me find my way. And AlAnon.
Peace-
B