Thanks to everyone who has offered their support. And Pelican, special thanks for your insight!
It is just so hard for me to do nothing. I keep thinking that something that I say or something that I call to her attention will turn her around again. Unfortunately, she seems just fine with the way things are. She is convinced that she was an alcoholic because of her life circumstances and level of maturity back then. She believes that now she can control it..........not!