I have allowed him to be an obstacle between my children and myself *second marriage* my fault, but he saw this as me blaming him......afterall, i was always afraid of him becoming angry or cruel to my kids so i avoided being with them while with him.
Yes, I did this also.
Mine was cruel to her, and he manipulated her, and mentally abused her. I regret that I put her in that situation. I hope that my leaving him was a good lesson for her, that it's not okay to be abused in that way.