Think you are both right. I'm sure there's more pain to come. The other woman is distraught that he won't take her calls and has come back to me twice and I've ended up counselling her.... bizarre and I'm stopping that. He's now on hot pursuit of me, text messages cards and declarations but actually that kind of puts me off because that's old "fix it quickly and get back to drinking" behaviour and this aint gonna be a quick process. Al Anon last night made me think that although I love him deeply maybe one day I should open the door to someone who can look after me for a change?
Ah well, what will be will be. And at least I have my beautiful girls and my good friends. And the support of people like you guys who understand how it all feels is a big help.