Originally Posted by
Alejandra 
it was him and he said please help me to get out of my crazy life and he said that I was the most wonderful thing that he ever had and I told him that I wasn't able to help him that the only person that can help him is himself
YES!
oh, it's
so hard. but think: you may very well be the very best that's ever come his way. ok. that in itself does NOT make a relationship work.
when we were 15 we might have believed that love makes a relationship. we now know better.
if what you (in your heart) wish for, is a relationship....then it's simply not happenin. how can it, with him so messed up?
he is used to you reaching out to catch him when he falls. that is what mommies do for their tiny children. if that is the dynamic with you two -- how healthy is that???
you keep staying strong, honey. you'll make it.