No contact was a blessing for me. I didn't miss the mind bending bs at all. By the time I left and went NC, I knew there was nothing I could say or do that would make things any better with my AH. I kept in mind "actions not words" - which is one of the most important things for us (IMHO) to remember.
I knew that if my AH were truly embracing recovery as he claimed (words), it would reflect in his actions. It did not, and it has not.
NC saved me from continuing to have a front row to his insanity. Not totally of course, as he escalated the abuse in any way he could from afar, but at least I didn't have to read or listen to the blah blah blah blah anymore.