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Old 09-14-2010, 03:49 PM
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Jaguar55
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So do you tell the alcoholic what you are doing before you go no contact or do you just "disappear"? How do they usually react to this sort of thing? Do you first give an ultimatum, like "if you don't....I'm going to"....?

I would love to buy my ABF an express ticket to rock bottom and see him get into recovery. I definitely don't want to coddle him, but I have done things inadvertently that have enabled him. No more. I suppose just staying in his life and loving him is enabling him. He's been able to rely on me for seven years. He takes it for granted that I will love him and that as long as he wants me he can have me. Lately he's been telling me how much he hates me and wants me out of his life and that we are done. But I think he says that stuff partly for the effect it has on me. I wonder how he will react if I am finally gone from his life? I'm really not sure what to expect.
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