Hi phineas. I'm new here too. I'm really sorry to hear about how much pain you are in right now. I am in the process of trying to detach from my ABF but I genuinely love him. We've been together seven years. If I manage to walk away it will be the hardest thing I've ever done.
Sometimes after a suicide attempt people start a new chapter in their life. It's an opportunity for change. I don't know what sort of help your ex agf is getting as far as therapy, medication, etc. but I hope she finds her way to a better life.
Next time I'm crying I'll think about you somewhere crying too, ok? I'm really happy to have found this forum and no longer be so alone in my grief and confusion.