Lost,
You haven't caused any tension or upset here.
And I totally understand why you would have fallen head over heels for the guy...I think most of us would or have.
I understand being single and being oh so careful, cautious and watchful...and how great it feels to be romanced...don't all we women want and love that?
Then finding those photos..stunned doesn't even begin to cover it does it?
Your whole reality goes into shock!
For myself, I knew he was now trying to sell you a bill of goods and that as much as you are hurt now...chances are it would get worse in the future.
I know how much you want to believe him...and how much this makes you doubt everything about yourself.
I fear him being able to isolate you...such that you are alone with whatever comes after.
You still have your home now and all the options...if you follow his path, you won't.
And you will be isolated...feel ashamed and not even able to talk about whatever is going on.
It and you will become too humiliated.
I and the others here do not want that to happen to you and your son.
I hope you are hanging in there today!