Wow, thanks again for the support and information! I had no idea that the Salvation Army does rehab. We have been a bit stuck on the rehab because our insurance only works in-state, and he will be going out of state.
So yeah, we talked today and he said he is now leaning towards going out of state to stay with his folks. Now I can point him to the Salvation Army if he wants to do inpatient while he's there.
I think this is a good step because he has so many problems--hates where we live, maybe wants to end our relationship, alcoholism...so at least going away will help with two of the three of them. Then he can decide if he wants to deal with his alcoholism.
We had been seeing a counselor and I haven't seen him for a couple of weeks...I am going to make an appointment for after he leaves.
Thanks again, everyone.