You're getting really great advice on here anonyme
Welcome to SR. I'm going/have gone through some of what you're going through. I currently live with an AH and have two small children. I, like you, used to count beers (and sometimes still do...). He says he thinks he has a problem, might go to AA, but doesn't go or backtracks and says he doesn't have a problem and never said that. Keep making an emergency fund, and start reading up on your boundaries and what you find acceptable and not acceptable. PP's are correct in that whatever you decide, it really won't change his drinking (but if you're like many of us, we learn the hard way....). Hugs mama, it's hard to acknowledge this problem and know what to do, but you've found a very supportive place. Read, learn, and grow and know that we'll do our best here to support you!