Originally Posted by
lostfrmbetrayal 
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Then maybe he means what he says?? Maybe he feels like you did and will change because he says it hurt his spirit, just like you said it hurt yours !!!????
What if he means it and i walk away??
He may mean what he says now, but as soon as he has you back, he won't!
It's a game. I didn't play games, I had an affair because I fell in love with the other man. I was going to leave my ex and was hoping for a future with the other man (ickkky when I think of that now).
Your BF sounds like he was doing it for the addiction of it and the thrill.
I only knew how much it hurt my spirit months later.
When I was doing it, I felt entitled. Then my ex left me for another woman, so I had A LOT of time to realize what a a&&hole I was.
I do sympathize because I still love my current ex and I wonder if he can change his ways, but in either case, you need to step back and heal from it no matter what.