Hi Lost
I agree with Firestorm - if he hadn't got caught...
MY RAH has lied (hopefully not about cheating but other things) and he would say sorry - but it's ok cause he admitted it- so he did the right thing - NO! you got caught then admitted it. Not the same thing.
If I were you I would forget you ever knew this man. As far as your son - this guy was just a big mistake - forget him and move on.
Another thing - you could anyone - no offense I'm sure you are awesome. But you are probubly just the next in a long line of other poor unsuspecting woman. And you won't be the last.
And if he has lied about the girl then the saying "I love you to only you" and the monk thing - it's all crap.
Save yourself - it will just be an endless nightmare!
:ghug3 hug for you and keep posting