Naw.......get the Abandonment book some of us are reading......that damn book....you can't trust him anymore......honesty is the biggie in recovery.......I hope you haven't sold your house. Your son can go back to his school with his old friends, and you can go back to your life and maybe to Alanon. You are experiencing abandonment added to every other time you have experienced it before. Be grateful you found out before you married him. Let go or be dragged. Ask yourself maybe why you choose alcoholics? You will be ok. You survived the other one. No contact really is best.