"it would be really selfish of me to just give up on him, you don't just turn your back on someone you care about"
"he hasn't worked for 3 years because the economy has been really bad"
"why don't you just QUIT?!? I don't understand, just STOP!!! you obviously love drugs more then you love me"
and like the rest of you: "its ok, let's just not get each other birthday/christmas/anniversary/valentines day presents"