reality can be powerful...you have the control and can exercise it anytime you wish....just pick up the phone and do it.....
Reality is self preservation..he.sure doesn't care about YOUR feelings or the kids feelings, he's an abusive rude selfish person....let him get a good dose of "reality" and start supportiing himself.....or is that too adult for him to consider?...like PAYING and contributing to the household? is it beneath him? you are providing free maid service, cooking, laundry working and he does what?...(provided the spe$$rm)? wow you could have done that with a lot less trouble.