update
For the last 4 days since I realised I had became co dependant I have been trying to practice detachment and get AGF out of my head a little.
I've stopped trying to contact her and let her do what she needs to do for her recovery, she knows where I am and where to find me if needs be but I have set my boundary and that is I won't enable.
She rings me at least once a day to let me know how she's getting on and I tell her about my life too. Which I see as a positive affirmation I was looking for in my co dependancy I wasn't getting before.
Feel like I'm making slow progress, she's still firmly in my head but slowly not causing my head as much pain.
One day at a time, little by little, those slogans work for me at the moment.