Welcome to the forum, Patch! It's great that you recognize you may have a drinking problem and are willing to do something about it before it gets worse.
I started off drinking socially too, and then slowly increased it to where I was drinking almost every day. It does take a toll on us (the supposed healthy limit is one day per day for women, 2 for men).
One of the telltale signs of alcoholic drinking is when we can't seem to stop even when we try. That was the case for me. I hadn't lost anything (yet) either, but I sure had seen my drinking progress over the years.
Anyway, I'm just glad you're here!!:ghug3