I really appreciate everyone sharing. My husband has been in recovery for six months. We have been separated for a year. I have been working on my recovery hard. Reading all of your posts, however, reminds me what an insane life I had lived for oh too long (most of my life), as the daughter of an alcoholic and wife of an alcoholic/addict. I want to say it's all behind me but. . . working on it, just for today, one day at a time, for the rest of my life.
I wish I never allowed someone's addiction (and my addiction & codependence to him) rob me of my civility and my humanity.