Yeah, what Barb said is right. When I kicked my son out I knew I had to be ready for any and every outcome...success AND failure.
My son has been about 90% on his own since May. (I say 90% because his dad canNOT let go completely and pays the rent in a tiny old apt. and a $150/mo. for groceries and gas...and that's ALL.) He has applied for the Navy and had to get clean to do that. Once he got clean he found he had the motivation to hunt for a job...and he got one! It took him a long time but he finally found one and he's feeling real good about himself now that he has a paycheck. He's definitely not out of the woods yet...not by a long shot...but he is making progress and LEARNING A LOT!!
I do have my serenity and that's very important to ME.