chicory - I know you don't *feel* like you're being abused, but you are. I would REALLY like to see you talk to a domestic violence counselor. The counseling is free and they really are experts at empowering women, especially in a situation like yours. They will help you so much in getting your head on straight(er), not to mention giving you all kinds of guidance about the laws that apply in your situation.
The national hotline number is 1−800−799−SAFE(7233)
The Ohio Domestic Violence Resource center website is:
Ohio DV Resource Center —
Please call.