It took me almost a full year to read/comprehend the definition of this particular forum which includes:
" Discuss coping tools and learn basic recovery techniques for you, not the addict, through 12 steps."
One of the greatest life lessons I learned here, from other posters, is that the longer I fixated on those things I do not control (the choices being made by other people in my life), the less I focused on working on my own issues.