You are most welcome! These are all realizations I've come to after lots of tears and worries. I miss the person who he is when he is sober. But that person checks out and it is real loss. No one knows if they will check back in, that is up to them and how they want to handle recovery.
Which is NOT in our control. The sooner you let it all go, it is very freeing.You can only control yourself and how you react to them.
good luck!!