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Old 09-04-2010, 10:11 AM
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Spiritual Seeker
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I too lost someone to addiction this summer, my 26 yr. old son.
It seems a phase that we must go through of feeling guilty about all the things that we
might have done differently. It serves us no good to feel guilty and yet we can't help it.

In reality, we are powerless over the choices our loved ones made that led them to their destiny.
Like you, I want the obsessing and sorrow to subside.
I find it helpful if I minimize my dwelling on the past or future.

In your post you shared some positive memories of your father.
Our loved one's time was all too brief and it is our challenge not to shorten ours with
grief.
May you find a small bit of peace today as you progress towards accepting the terrible loss you have been dealt .
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