The steps work for me in just about every difficulty I face in life.
Find any meeting that you like and just stick with it for a few months. Get a sponsor and work the steps. More will be revealed and you can proceed with your recovery one day at a time using the tools and skills you will be learning.
AlAnon did the most for me (I also went to ACOA AlAnon meetings) because it got to the root of so many of my bad habits of mind that I had learned or built up as a defense during my childhood with an A dad and codie mom.
If I get overwhelmed and try to solve ALL my issues at once I quickly end up a nervous wreck with no progress to show! Just focusing on one small step of a plan, and repeating that one small good change in my thinking or behavior until it feels natural helps me build real change.
Easy does it!
Peace-
B