nightandday
No need to apologize to me! You have to do what is right for you! And if that is avoidance right now....then so be it! I think it's really healthy that we are examining the questions put forth in the opening of this Step. Some of us may be more affected or impacted by some of those questions than others. But just reading and reviewing and evaluating ourselves is good, positive, forward momentum in our recovery.
When I am up to my neck in my own issues, I don't have a lot of reserve for others (particularly not my AS because his issues seem so huge to me.....overwhelming). I don't think there is anything selfish about taking care of "us" first. I spent one heck of a lot of years NOT taking care of myself because I was so darn busy taking care of everyone around me. It's ok that it's MY turn to take care of ME!
How very liberating that sounds!
gentle hugs