The Alanon group will welcome you. You don't have to "share" unless you want to. They will read the steps and discuss a topic. They will share their experience with the topic. They will talk about how to get the focus on "us" not the alkie/addict and how to get better. Share what you are comfortable sharing or just say you will "pass". They are there for the same reasons you are.....they need help with dealing with the alkie/addict.....or letting them go, detaching with love, accepting the situation but mainly how to get you heallthy and enjoying your life again. They may offer you some pamphlets. If they have it get the one about the" merry-go-round "of living with addiction.