Hugs. I know that my in-laws will be the same way when I leave AH. No one in AH's family has ever seen him drunk. They know that I left him once over it, but I don't think they really understood why he moved back with them (I think they 'just' thought he went too far when drinking one night...), and I don't think they realize the extent of his addiction. I think they might even still be under the impression that he does not drink. They are very anti-alcohol, so it rarely, if ever, comes up in conversation and AH does not drink when we go to visit (note that these visits are short). I expect my SIL to be very mean, and I expect my MIL to be direct. I really don't know how my FIL will react.