Chicory, NO ONE could ever accuse you of not trying to help your son. You have done all that anyone could possibly do. Until your son realizes that he is the only one who can change his situation, he will never get better. As long as you are there to pick up the pieces, remind him to do things he should remember on his own, refuse to let him drive your car after drinking, etc., then he is going to blame everything on you. Until it is only HIM around to blame these things on, he will never get it. The common denominator in all of his problems is himself. He sabotages himself. If there is no one around to take care of him, he will have to learn to do it himself. I am confident that he can do much more for himself than he has been.