Keepinon,
Thank you dear. I know that you all are helping me. I have a big fear, and i am sure that it is evident that I am going to ahve to be pushed , like a stubborn mule.
Believe me, I appreciate all this help. it is so complicated, but then, I am hearing that it is as simple as let go, or be dragged. Just do not ever want to be guilty of not helping when I should have, you know? i have little wisdom to draw on. but this is a great resource.