BklynGrl,
I remember being frightened, in a panic, not knowing what was going to happen next. I found some comfort in writing down my worst fears. I took all of those unknowns that were big and hairy and scary and I carried them all the way out to the end. Once I did that, I realized that most of what I worried about was either out of my control or wasn't really going to happen.
I also had some good friends lined up whom I could call... those friends who would mostly listen and say "there there" etc. I didn't really need their advice, I just needed someone to listen to me.
And finally, I got some good books: Courage to Change One Day at a Time in Al Anon, How It Works, Paths to Recovery, The Dilemma of the Alcoholic Marriage - all really good Al Anon books, along with Co Dependent No More. I found if I was reading, I wasn't worrying and futurizing....
It helps to take some deep breaths, hug and pet the cat, take a bubble bath and be extra gentle with yourself. And know that we are here.