Suki,
I have wondered that too. I have done a lot for him, and he probably does not know for sure if he can survive on his own. I know what you are asking and I think that is a fair question. That is in the back of my mind, all the time.
I was just talking to my daughter, and we agreed that there are probably many , many alcoholics or addicts that are viewed as beyond hope by their families.
I would guess that many people fee l this way about a loved one who is in denial, and is too stubborn to even have a conversation with.
So, I chose to have hope- tho weak and faint, it's heart is beating.
Suki, you may ask me what you wish. I am anonymous here, and have nothing to hide. Not if I really want recovery.
Thank you, for the help and advice. I do appreciate it all.