Hi Fiona - Big changes in your life recently...... Even if they're good changes, it's going to be somewhat stressful. Try to deal with things as they come and have faith in the process.
I really feel for you, having your husband out drinking and returning home drunk. I agree with Anna that the dynamics DO change when we get sober and it's not always an easy road. Wish I could make things better for you. Just continue to grow in your sobriety and do what's best for you. The job thing sounds like a good idea, too. Hang in there!!