Chicory wrote:
My sister , who has a son who has done similar, says I should get a restraining order against him, so he cannot come back. not cause he is not loved, but because he is loved, and we know that he is not being helped by me. I wanted so to give him a helping hand. He just resents me , seeing my rules as making him live in misery.
I feel compelled to say this, more for any/all the lurkers who are 'out there' looking in here, reading our posts, yet haven't mustered the courage to log in and join up yet.
Men who are abusive are also not likely to obey a restraining order.
Just the fact that your son has outstanding warrants
doesn't necessarily mean that he can't take care of business....
it could well be saying that he truly believes he's above the law.
People of that mindset... do not adhere to Orders Of Protection.
I'm saying this like I say, more for anyone lurking out there
who may be thinking that a restraining order
will somehow 'keep the bad guy away'.
When the fact and reality is -
it almost never does.
They almost always come back.
And if the woman calls and reports it -
THEN there are consequences to make them STAY away
usually by putting them in jail for a time or a huge forced fine.
I don't mean to get anyone upset -
I just feel the need to point out
that restraining orders
only work on tv.
It's not an end of the situation.
thanks.