Originally Posted by
hurtandangry 
what i can control is myself...i can refuse to participate both emotionally and financially....what i'm having issues with is my own sense of guilt...that's why i sought the advice of those who've "been there-done that".
I'm still there. I left my alcoholic fiancée just 3 weeks ago, and it's still all very fresh and painful.
I too, am dealing with the "she's a good person when she's sober", and keep thinking in my head that maybe i overreacted, maybe it wasn't that bad, even though I know I made the right decision.
I'm glad I left the alcoholic, but I mourn the loss of the person behind the addiction, and I mourn the loss of all my hopes and dreams.
I keep hoping for a happy ending, for her to see her wrong ways, but I know that's not going to happen.