I am *so* the praying sort.
First things first a hug for you (((Jessijoy)))
Second: is there an Alanon in your area?
it is worth any amount of digging you have to do to find,
then latch onto them if you find them and hang on for everything you got.
I can't stress enough the blessing of having women (and men)
surrounding you who have experience in this,
know who you can talk to if you need anything,
and are so 'hooked into' the recovery community
in ANY area I've ever read about them.
Avail yourself in 3-D of the advantages this organization offers.
Third:
you need a plan.
sounds like you're thinking in the right direction,
wanting to put it off until you save up the money.
If you can live that way, and remain safe... I recommend trying to do that.
If you think you're in harm's way -
there's no amount of money worth waiting for when you're in danger.
Get out the phone book
and the newspaper
and find all the ads you can
about shelters, emergency help....
in case things turn dark and nasty when you do state your leaving.
Whether you believe he would turn or not =-
be prepared as if you're sure he will.
Be ready.
And finally, I encourage you to keep posting here.
There's tons of experience on this site,
and these women care... and they listen.
We've been there.
SOME of us... more than once.
You're not alone.:ghug3