Originally Posted by
katie28 
I have been reading through the 12 step program and one of the steps is about making amends with people who you have harmed. Also in co-dependent no more they talk about forgiveness. I don't think that I could ever make amends or forgive the people who enabled him and gave him the drugs. Is that wrong? Are you supposed to forgive everyone in order to move on with your life?
My belief is that forgiveness is cathartic. Because I believe this so strongly, I have the tendency to want to "go there" before it is time. Most, if not all, aspects of healing cannot be rushed. By that same token, you can't run away and not do the "work" either.
You are fine to question. It's part of the process.
Amends? Forgiveness?
Doesn't have to make sense today, or next spring.
In good time. All in good time.