I've spent some time reading on the Alcoholics Forum. I cannot seem to get enough of trying to understand and relate to all of it, I guess.
Anyway, I just read a quote that was posted by a recovering alcoholic, and boy, did the lightbulb go off for me.
"They have to take the focus off "not drinking", and put the focus on "recovering"."
Huge difference. And amazing how many A's go to AA, have sponsors, and still don't get it.
I have to just keep reminding myself that I've let him go. It's up to him and his HP what happens from here. It always was, LOL. I'm still learning.