Thanks everyone for the insightful posts...gave me a lot to think about.
Originally Posted by
lightseeker 
s
Whether we are addicts or not we all have core issues...some are more extreme than others. I know that my husband's core issue is "the loser". Right when he has it all going for him he sabatouges it. "The Loser" loves to prove that he is right. The counseling taught him how to counter "the loser's" belief system.
This made a lot of sense to me, and pretty much what I was thinking. I also think, especially in my brothers case, that maybe the A doesn't think they deserve to be loved or successful. Maybe because of things they have done as an addict, or even before addiction.
Very interesting to me. Even though I've learned there is no 'reasoning' of addiction, sometimes it helps to made some sense of it...