I too am busy reading the book Codependant No More and busy trying to mind my own business etc but like you I have had a bad weekend - firstly, I casually mentioned to AH that I had read an article about Robbie Williams quitting the booze and going to AA and then followed through later in the day about another Alcoholic I knew who has ruined his health, has developed a type of demensia and cant be left on his own. I knew that i shouldnt even bother saying anything and realised a bit later on in the day that I had been trying to manipulate by setting the seed about how Alcoholism can effect you. I know its not like your story but just wanted to say that we all make mistakes but we are learning and trying to change a habit of a lifetime which wont happen overnight. Be kind to yoursef - your doing your best.