HI..and welcome....
the three C's are a must in your thinking....no stinking thinking...
USE your AL ANON every single day...get a sponsor...go to many meetings as you can and WANT..and NEED...(he goes to AA, you go to AL ANON)that is what they are there for...use the slogans....they do help...
stay here and READ AND READ and READ somemore...you will find alot of friends here with same experiences as you...ask question...go into chat...that is what SR is all about...tradition 12 says...principle before personalities....and its true....
lessons learned and we grow....that is what its all about....