Thankyou naive. My therapist recognized that I did set this boundary however his values were different to mine therefore he didn't support what I was doing.
It was a very difficult situation but I feel after all the help and support I gave him for 4 years he doesn't see what I did for him to keep him alive and our relationship alive.
He said that he has forgiven this girl for getting him drugs. He said that she knows she did the wrong thing and is sorry but my mother says that he won't be through his recovery until he gets angry at her for enabling him... Something I can't see happening anytime soon.
The other thing that hurts is that he said that he wasn't in love with me he thinks he was under the influence of the drugs and that was another reason why he drank as he wanted to end the relationship as I was too 'straight' for him and he drank to avoid breaking up with me.
I feel like I have invested so much and lost everything