One thing I've discovered, is that the more I kick and scream (lol, that's usually figurative, but occasionally literal) about a situation I don't like, the more painful the whole thing is.
If I can BREATHE, and ACCEPT the fact that the situation is what it is, it loses some of its power over me. It's the resistance that hurts. It doesn't change a darn thing to mentally resist reality, but it does make me pretty miserable. On the other hand, if I accept the situation as being how things are right now, I can take some actions that will do ME some good.