Hi StretchMan
What a sad time for you. And you are going through your own extremely difficult and painful time (i read your other posts about your illness). Things have not been good for you. I am so sorry for that.
I agree with what the others say, there is not much that can be done in this situation. Especially if his wife and son are involved so much and so negatively.
I think detachment will be key for you, learning to take care of yourself and accepting that you are not capable nor responsible for getting him sober.
It is not selfish to admit you can't help - it's just a fact.
Take care of yourself, keep posting and reading.
You have friends here.
