Ok... maybe I'm a little confused? So is it "gaslighting" if they really did say something but they don't remember? I would have countless repeat convos with my ABF because he wouldn't remember talking to me about it the night before. Or he would promise to do something and I would get upset when I came home the next day and it wasn't done. He said he never remembered telling me whatever it was and I would have to remind him. So if it's true he really said it, then I'm not gaslighting, right??