Thank you so much for posting this. I've really felt for years (10+) that my husband was mean and I have been told by some therapists that he is abusive but he didn't call me names or scream and maybe I'm too sensitive...?
This last few months I've really been waking up to the truth but I still wonder if I'm overreacting, especially now that he's being "nice" (or at least not mean). I'm saving this and will refer to it when I'm feeling weak.