I found this link in a post from the past and my jaw dropped.
Physical & Emotional Abuse Discussions at DailyStrength: Worth Reading and re-posting...
I had never realized that all the things that XABF was doing were emotional abuse. This has him narrowed down almost to a tee. I thought because he didn't call me names often or do anything very direct that he wasn't absuive. But he implied all of the subtlest attacks. Very empowering finally realizing that it wasn't my fault, and that I wasn't crazy. It's also very frightening to see that I was capable of being with someone like that, believing that I loved him, and that he loved me. I'm sure this won't be shocking to anyone else but I am completely blown away.