Thread: What do I do?
View Single Post
Old 08-19-2010, 06:44 PM
  # 10 (permalink)  
Live
Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2002
Location: Bristol TN/VA
Posts: 12,431
You don't have to stop loving someone in order to/or before you leave.

I wouldn't make any promises about what would happen if he got sober either.
Who knows when that may be if ever or where you will be in your life?

I think (just my opinion) that it would be considerate to talk to him when he is sober and tell him you have decided to leave. Tell him some of the things you wrote here about why it isn't working for you and you have your life and your future that YOU ALONE are RESPONSIBLE for. (You are just doing the responsible thing, ya know). You wished it had worked but it hasn't and you're going to love him from a distance and go on with your life. Wish him well.

Then LEAVE. Don't act as if anything "normal" is still going on.

a clean break is easier on both of you.

I hope this helps.
Live is offline