Originally Posted by
Daybreak 
Maybe after a few more Al-Anon meetings, I will understand why detachment has any place in what is supposed to be a marriage -- or any committed relationship between two people.
Detachment may not be a requirement in a normal marriage, or a healthy committed relationship.
However, a partnership that involves an active addict as one of the partners is not normal or healthy. There is usually a dynamic of unacceptable addictive behavior (denial, manipulation, lies, blameshifting) partnered with codependent controlling behavior in such a partnership.