This has been such a helpful thread. This is exactly what I went through. And I almost did go insane. If it were not for al anon and SR, I would not have had the courage to say, "I know you are drinking, and sneaking, and lying about it, and this is not what I signed up for". And he told me to get out if I did not like it, so I did. I was so scared, and hurt and sad, I was physically sick to my stomach. But that moment saved my life. I am convinced of that.